The Blame Game

Sometimes one of the most difficult things to do is to look into the mirror. It is so easy to find fault in those around you and blame everything that's going wrong in your life on those around you. Why is that? That is a question I've been pondering for years. If you are unhappy, unsatisfied and unfilled is that caused by others, the result of others or does the fault lie with the person sitting where you are sitting. Is our condition and position really as tied to other as we tend to act or are we just afraid or unwilling to look in the mirror and own up to some things that are long over due?

Is it really the fault of the all the other members of the church that you feel alone?

Is it really your parent's fault that you are where you are in life?

Is it really the fault of every friend you ever had that you're no longer as close or no longer friend at all?

Is the real reason you can't maintain a relationship with the opposite sex really because you've not found the right person?

Is it really the fault of your mate that you're not happy, whole and healthy?

Do your really have a money and/or weight issues or do you have a discipline problem?

Is the real reason you can't keep a job that you keep getting hired by cruel and sinter people who get a kick out of hiring and firing people?

Tell me the real deal! Was there really no other options? Had you exhuasted ALL other avenues? Did the Spirit of GOD really move/show/tell you that? No! This is not the time to log off the computer or look up another site. Really though! You might be stealing time off your job right now [now that's funny]. We feel better if we can blame someone or something else rather than pointing the finger in the right direction. We'll even blame God for allowing certain things to happen. I have just one thing to say..."STOP IT...STOP THE MADNESS!"

Here's my point do yourself a favor and take a cold hard honest look at yourself and it will cause you to understand others around you. It's Christmas, so let me offer you a little advise. You ready for this? Here we do...You really want to do the people around you a favor?

1. Take a cold hard honest look in the mirror and see yourself the way you are.

2. Then have that same cold hard honest conversation with God [in prayer].

3. Finally sit back and listen to what God will say back to you (I believe as teachers we need to teach God's people not only how to pray but how to listen to to God).

As we move into the new year it would be a shame to pack the old baggage of the past in. Sit down with yourself and help yourself. We've all heared that maturity takes time but that's not the only thing. Maturity also take honesty and commitment. Old wound, attitude, emotion and mentalties will turn a new year fill of new opprotunities, possibilities and (you fill-in the blank) into more of the same. Quit making excuses and make this New Your Best Year!

Here's to stopping the blame game!

Happy Bithday Jesus

As we celebrate Jesus' Birthday, let me thank you so much for your support of the blog and your encouraging word. Christmas is such a special time for family, friends, fellowship, food and fantastic fun. Enjoy them all and be safe.

Didn't share my outline from this past weekend, but today seem like a great day.

Title "The Jesus Story"

Scripture Philippians 2: 5-11

Introduction to the life of Jesus...The Cradle

Body to the life of Jesus...The Cross

Conclusion to the life of Jesus...The Crown

Christmas is much bigger than a babe in Bethlehem. The cradle is useless without the cross and the cross is meaningless without the crown.

As I sit around with my children and grandchildren be certain that the story will be shared. Take advantage of this grand opportunity to began a tradition with deepen the meaning of Christmas with the Christmas story. It not just about a Son being conceived. It moves to a Savior being crucified. To ultimately a Sovereign being crowned.

Have a Very Merry Christmas!

Happy Birthday Jesus!

Get Some Rest For The Journey

“Come to me all you that are weary and heavy burdened and I will give you rest.” (Matt. 11:28)

In the Bible, people came to Jesus for many different reasons. Some people came for forgiveness. Some came for answers. Others came for healing. Still others came to Jesus for eternal life. But in Matthew 11: 28, Jesus says you can come to him for rest. That means release from stress, release from overload.

Monday, I took off and headed for some much needed rest. We’re to take one day off every week. While the Bible say that we should rest on Sunday, for me Sunday is a far cry from rest. Sunday for me is full of preaching, meeting with people, and overseeing the worship experience, just to name a few – trust me I’m not resting. I really don’t think that it matter what day, but even Pastor’s need a day off.

I’ve notice over the last few years that when I’m tired emotionally, spiritually and physcially I became more irritated with the people around me. I don’t get as much done and to put it bluntly I’m not much fun to be around either. There a story of a pastor who’s members got mad at him because they couldn’t reach him on his day off. The pastor said, “Sorry, but that was my day off.” A member shouted back, “The devil doesn’t take a day off.” To which the pastor replied, “You’re right. And if I don’t, I’d be just like the devil.” Enough said about what happens to me when I don’t take the time to get some rest.

The last 48 hours has afforded me some time to really refresh and reflect. It’s amazing how cloudy your thoughts and emotions become when you become tired and wired. Well the long and the short of it is that I’ve learned a valuable lesson: when you get to busy to find time to steal way and get some rest, you’re just to darn busy.

One of the things that I’ve notice is that when I steal away, whether its a short ride, a long drive, a early morning workout or a day trip my thoughts become clearer. At the close of every year I make a conscience effort to be a better person than the year before by writing down some steps or a game plan. I really don’t believe in New Years resolutions but I do think that a person should simply find an area in their life that could use a little improvement and figure out how to deepen their life experience.

Well, I started writing my game plan for ’09 today. I haven’t completed my list but one of the things on my list is to deepen my relationships. I then asked myself what can I do to deepen my relationships? Here’s what I’m thinking give support, stability, self-expression and significance.

People need to know you’re with them, no matter what. That’s Support.
People need to know you got their back, no matter what. That’s Stability.
People need to know you will allow them to be who God made them, no matter what. That’s Self-expression.
People need to know they are important to you, no matter what. That’s Significance.

Take the next 7 or 8 days and challenge yourself to be better. I’ll be praying for you and get some rest for the journey.

Christmas time is coming

Christmas time is such a busy time seem like everybody is in a hurry. Busy shopping, decorating, family gathering, and Christmas parties. Its amazing the amount of time is spend preparing for Christmas and celebrating Christmas. At the Gaddis household we have always taken thing slow. It seems like the holidays seems to slow us down. As the old year comes to a close and the new year approaches we actually coast. Christmas is more about Christ there has never been a whole lot of gifts under the tree early. While we believe in exchanging gifts we simply go out a few days before and pick up a few gifts for our children and now grandchildren. Christmas is Thursday and Zachary, the sugababies and I just put the tree up at 2am because I had to catch an early flight this morning. Janice hasn't even began to shop, now somewhere in the next few hour she will pick up a few things. I'm thankful that we've tried over the years to not be guilty of falling in to the commercialism of Christmas. Amazing enough its not because we fought it, we just kinda fell into it.

Yesterday, was 28 years to-the-date when Janice and I started dating (now that's GRACE)! Let me quickly say that says much more about her than it does about me. It takes a special person to maintain a relationship with a head-strong, stubborn (and a whole lot of other stuff I probably shouldn't say) man like me. Janice is the one of the sweetest and loving people I know. She has one of the BIGGEST heart, love children and identifies with those who are hurting. She is an amazing woman! She has raise our children, maintain and managed our home and keeps up with me.

You probably would never have imaged it but for some reason we didn't like each other in the beginning (she really hated me...you know what the Pretenders sang "it's a thin line between love and hate"). We first met when I entered junior high school, I was in the 7th grade and she was in the 8th grade. Janice was very outspoken and a bully, that's my story and I'm sticking with it.

So here's how this went down...it was lunch time and I was about to take my current girlfriend to lunch. Janice walked over to my car ask to ride with us and got in the front seat causing my friend to ride in the back. The way she tells it is that she didn't know that she was my girlfriend [everybody knows who the star of the basketball and football team is dating...sorry for the shamless plug]. Later I was visiting a friend and lo and behold Janice and her friend was walking home from the store. After a bit of flirting I asked her if I could walk her to her house. After a few blocks I had convicted her to give me her phone number. We spent the next few week talking on the phone all night long and deal with the current girlfriend issue.

After a date to Godfather's pizza (where she ate all the pizza) I pop the question...and she said yes. And has been saying yes every since. 28 years ago was our first Christmas, you talking about a tough gift to buy. New relationship, new Girlfriend and 5 days till Christmas. I went with the scarf, gloves set and $5 (always was a baller). Janice bought a terry-cloth shirt...I think I wore that shirt every week.

Now 28 years later here it is Christmas again but this time we have 5 children and 3 grandchildren. Funny how God does what He does. I often say in marriage counseling that had God given me anyone eles I would be on wife 5 by now. I have had a front row seat as God has shaped and fashioned her into the beautiful, caring and supportive women and wife she is today. Happy Anniversary Jan!

The Preacher's Struggle

Been working my behind off trying to get everything in before the holidays. Preparing Christmas message for this weekend. What a challenge each and ever holiday to trying to tell the same story from a different and unique and attractive angle. It's been interesting to talk to other Pastor and Preacher of the Gospel to see how God is leading them in their presentation. The Christmas story is still the second greatest story next to the Easter story but at the same time they really go hand-n-hand. Guess by now you've noticed my spiritual struggle or challenge. I'm done with my message but not feeling to comfortable with it. This happens more than I would like to admit. Two things happen with me when I'm writing or preparing 1. I get it [I understand clearly why He has me writing down that vein.] 2. I don't get it [this is when I'm struggling every step of the way, cause I just simply don't get it]. Here's the picture you ever been in WalMart and was amusingly entertained by the little kid who have been arrested by the toys and who mother is ready to go. The mother ends up dragging the child down the well polished tile kicking and streaming. Well that me sometime - I have to get it [not really but it feels much better when I do]. Pray for the message and messenger this weekend.

Young Zachary made it home from school safe for the holidays. The basketball schedule keeps him away, so its always good to have him home. Attached are two picture one of Zachary with two of the grandbabies. The other is embarrassingly a picture of the church but because they have worked so hard it's several week old. Promise to get updated ones soon. Keep the entire building process in your prayers as well.

Pastor's Aid Ministry

This past weekend the Greater Bethel Church was blessed to have as her guest Rev. Ray Owens pastor of the wonderful Macedonia Church family South Bend, Indiana. Rev. Owens has been our guest preacher for 8 years now…while as assistant at the Greater Mount Olive Baptist Church and now as pastor-teacher of his own church. We have a unique relationship while I’m a few years older, our lives parallel. I first notice Ray as a young kid growing up at the Mount…he just had this air about him. He started out directing the youth choir, later answered his call to the ministry, started preaching youth annual days around town and enrolled in school at Oklahoma Baptist University. All of which I has done several years earlier. Ray is an outstanding preacher he stirred our hearts as he taught on “Real Worship” from John 12: 1-3 (ESV). God is going to do an amazing thing in South Bend through the preaching ministry of Rev. Owens.

Sunday was the annual Pastor’s Appreciation Ministry Day. This day was simply the old-school “Pastor’s Aid Day.” The Pastor’s Aid Ministry had been in African American Baptist Churches for a long time. What the ministry does exactly is up to each local church. Here’s at Bethel there are many who simply have the gift and passion for caring, supporting and praying for their pastor. This particular ministry has continue to evolve the old-school Pastor’s Aid would maintain the pastor’s robes, handkerchiefs, suites and other miscellaneous things. Now it has moved into a holistic approach the ministry now seeks to support its pastor spiritually, physically, financially, and congregationally needs.

For many you hear that age old cliché “it doesn’t take all that,” sad but true. The support of the pastor is vital to the health of the church. The President of the United States has his aids, staff, counsel, secret service, advisors and his presidential cabinet (just to name a few) in order to assure his success and the success of the country. Many pastor simply go to battle week in and week out, they are beaten, bruised and drained from the lack of support. Giving so much but receiving so little. Thus creating a spiritually, emotionally, physically bankrupted preacher that finally leads to an ineffective leader that leads an ineffective church.

An effective powerful church only happens when people and pastor, pew and pulpit are joined together in spiritual partnership. Churches are good at holding the pastor responsible and accountable to his end of the partnership. It’s time now that the church holds itself to the same. If a church wants a caring, loving, supportive, innovative, and cutting-edge pastor then the church has to be caring, loving supportive, innovative, and cutting-edge. Churches have been consuming pastors, leaders and ministry head for years because they have consumed much and contributed little [if any], have required much and given little. The spiritual covenant should be that we [church/pastor] commit to always sow more than we reap.

Please remember the Greater Bethel Church in your prayers today that the Lord will continue to do in us and bring through us that which will bring Glory and Honor to Him!

10 Days to Christmas

Christmas is 10 days away, does anyone other than me feel the pressure? The pressure of purchasing the perfect gift! If you do then I know that those that you are seeking to satisfy haven't been any help. The funny thing is that the very ones who are the most difficult to purchase a gift for are often the most critical. We've all been there when the gift critic begins about another gift. So to be thoughtful we ask "what would you like for Christmas?" to which they answer "nothing" or "I'm not sure" or the worst of all "WHATEVER!"

We are then trapped not knowing what that prefect gift is. Well this year everyone is getting a Visa Gift Card and we're going to be done with it. If they don't have any suggestion then surely you can't miss with a gift card.

I really don't like gift cards but they come in handy. Personally I believe that gift given should be thoughtful. The same way as cards (i.e. birthday, anniversary) when a person opens the card it should say something imitate and meaningful.

So to all who are under pressure to find that prefect gift...I praying for you. To all you gift critic don't be so hard, Christmas is really about Christ not you.

Gift Card for Everyone!

Today, Friday, December 5th

Today, I will be ministering the closing message in revival at my home church as they celebrate their 99th Homecoming Celebration. What a joy it has been to go home and share the word with many of the people who knew me when. Many who have made personal deposits into my life and ministry over these 44 years. I thank God for my childhood pastor Dr. J. A. Reed – he has continued to support, shape and push my ministry forward. I am share preaching responsibilities with Dr. Clarence Morton of Baltimore, MD, who is a full-time evangelist. Dr. Morton is a gifted, mature minister who I’ve learns much from over the past two years. He is very knowledgeable in cult and teaches with power and clarity each time he stands.

The Greater Bethel Church has just made me so proud and I know God smile by their support and attendance of the revival. What an amazing people God has given me the privilege to simple love and to care for…I love you Greater Bethel.

The new church is coming along well will be posting some new pictures soon!

I was presented with an award in honor of our former State Rep the honorable Kevin Cox base on his motto while in office "a workhorse not a showhorse" award. For outstand service to the community at a banquet hosted by the Metropolitan Better Living Center. Thank you to the board, director and staff for the honor.

Day 8 of 40 Days of Love

Yesterday, we had an awesome time in the Lord, from intercessory prayer @ 830 to 4:30 small group bible study. I’m getting back in the habit of meeting with the prayer warriors on Sunday morning for intercessory pray for our worship experiences. There are only a few but they are committed to welcoming the Holy Spirit into the building and faithfully praying for the souls who will attend the experiences. Our 9am bible study is growing as we continue to share God’s Word, during the summer we focused on God’s Amazing Grace as a prelude to our series on Love. Rev. Terry Buxton of the Agape Bible Fellowship Church of Tulsa, Oklahoma was our 46th Birthday celebration speaker. Rev. Buxton has been a friend a long time and while in college I invited him to come and preach. He’s also married to a childhood friend from the Fairview Church. Reverend quickly felt comfortable and relaxed and gave us a solid word from Mark chapter 5. The Buxton’s have a young ministry in Tulsa that have just celebrated their second year but just purchased a church in a fast growing area of Tulsa. They’re doing some very exciting things and we connect at so many levels that we simple talked for hours about what God is doing, able to do and will do in these two churches.

Today, we started week 2 of “40 Days of Love,” this has been both a struggle and blessing. It is amazing how God will open your eyes when you give concentrated and intense study of a particular subject. This has been a practice of mine since our first spiritual journey, to simply just saturate the congregation with that which God is saying whether it’s worship, tithing or fellowship. The Buxtons asked if there was one thing that I could contribute the growth of the church to what would it be. It was simple, concentrated focus…in my preaching I am primarily a series preacher [that means each message I preach connects for at least 4 or 5 weeks]. I find that people relate and respond better, when number one they know what to expect Sunday after Sunday and two they are excited to know more about deepening a subject matter. The struggle has been there are so many hurt people that have come to church for years and never ever been healed. The level of bitterness, anger, fear, brokenness and unforgiveness is almost suffocating. In writing this I’m reminded of the man with the evil spirit that attended church every week but until Jesus stood up and preached the spirit was comfortable in [Mark 1:21-28]. The moment Jesus spoke the spirit recognized the authority of Jesus. 40 days of love has actually exposed something in all of us. Love is one of those things we say we do but our English vocabulary has limited the meaning and definition of love…we love everything from peach cobbler to our favorite team to hobbies to people.

In week one we learned that love is life greatest lesson to learn and that God commands us “to love him with all our heart, soul, mind, and all our strength and love your neighbor as yourself”. This week we’re learning to love like Jesus loves… “a new command I give you; Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”

Today’s thought was “Jesus doesn’t want us to try our hardest [in loving one another], he wants us to learn to trust in him.”

This week’s memory verse: “Love is patient, love is kind” 1 Corinthians 13:4

Pray for the Greater Bethel Church as we seek to destroy these enemies: bitterness, anger and unforgiveness as we learn more about loving like God loves.

Day 1 of 40 Days of Love - I Got The Scars To Prove It

Life is a series of ups and down; ins and outs, and highs and lows – I got the scars to prove it! Yesterday, we began our 5th spiritual growth journey at the Greater Bethel Church. Have you ever knew God was about to do something so big that you could hardly wait to see when, where and how he was going to do it? Well, that exactly how I’ve been feeling. Now let me quickly say that’s not the only feeling I’ve had. Too be blunt I’ve been nothing but a ball of emotions for nearly a week. After having what seemed to be a very good solid three or four weeks of ministering God’s Word. Welcoming the opportunity to expand the boards of my personal ministry…excited and scared to death…but trusting God for whatever He wanted to do. Things quick made its way from the mountain top to the deepest darkest valley. After regaining my composer I had to get past “WHY” to get to “To What End.” GOD IS SOVEREIGN…either causing things or allowing things to happen. So when stuff happens you have to ask “to what end” or “what for.”

Here's "to what end." With the challenges of building a new church, writing the letters, sermons, recommendations, making every appointment, touching everyone who wants to be touched, keeping every one happy, keeping the budget, health, marriage, family and a myriad of other things that for the lack of space I will not try to mention – it get tough. To make matter worst when you seek to raise the level of spirituality and conscience of a people – as God leads you – its almost like stepping in a bear trap. I’m a movie watcher so you ever seen the movie “The Bodyguard” staring Kevin Costner and Whitney Houston where Kevin plays a former secret service agent who take the job of being the bodyguard of a pop singer played by [you guessed it] Whitney. The movie ends with Kevin jumping in the way of a bullet meant for Whitney. He sacrificed his body to protect her body. Welcome to the life of a pastor – less I sound like a martyr that far and in between, I would be taking too much credit by saying that everything that comes my way is because I’ve done everything right. Much of what I experience is my own doing but there times when after the dust settle you realize that this is much bigger than you and time is always a dead give away.

The long and short of it is that God is going do something fantastic and wonderful in the lives of the people of this congregation – I can just feel it. I hope you are just as earger as I am to see the relationships around each of us. God is going to transform our church over the next 40 days through our commitment to love Him with all our heart, our soul, our mind and our strength and love our neighbors as ourselves [Matthew 22: 37-39].

In Day 1 of our 40 Days of Love, we learned that “relationships are painful and wonderful” almost like sweet and sour. As we read “The Relationship Principles of Jesus” – by Tom Holladay, Jesus will deepen our understand of what our primary focus should be “love!” When asked Jesus says there is absolutely nothing more important than love. So there is nothing more important than the next 40 Days in your life and in my life.

What to know how to get the Most out of the next 40 Days?

Hear – the messages that I’ll be preaching each weekend

Read – the daily devotional from “The Relationship Principles of Jesus”

Invite – the people you love and care about to share this experience with you family, friends, neighbors, and co-works [Weekend Experiences & Small Group Experiences]

Discuss – get involved or start your own small group bible study

Remember – the weekly memory verse 1 Corinthians 14:1 “Let love be your highest goal!” (NLT)

Do – the work and apply it to your life today

I can’t wait to hear your stories of how 40 Days of Love will transform your life. So e-mail at pastorg@BethelFamilyChurch.com and simply put “MY STORY” in the subject line. It’s going to be great as God continue to “Build THE Church, while He Builds A Church!”

En•dur•ance –noun the ability or strength to continue or last, esp. despite fatigue, stress, or other adverse conditions; stamina

We’ve all heard it, “God never promised us a rose garden.” The older I get the more I get it. Here’s another one we’ve all heard, “when it rains, it pours.” By now if you’re my age or older you’ve heard these statement all of your life. How true are they [by now you’re smiling]? We’ve all had days like that but have you had a weekend or a week. Then congratulations!!!! You’re a survivor. Even if what you must endure is God appointed or self afflicted, trouble is just flat out no fun. Now here the preacher in me…

• you cannot appreciated the sunshine until you have spent time in the storm
  
• you cannot appreciated water until you have been thirsty
  
• you cannot appreciated good health until you’ve experienced sickness
  
• you cannot appreciated the gift of friendship until you’ve been friendless
  
• you cannot appreciated the crowd until you’ve been lonely
  

I think you get the point. So no matter what you’re going through today or have to go through tomorrow know that “trouble can’t last always” [just had to throw one more in for good measure]. We all are living testimonies of the truth in that one. Be encouraged. Whoever that’s for…I say again be encourage.

The weekend was a very tough one for me. Sometime when you live your life on the stage [that what I call the life of every leader especially pastors.] I say that because when most church goers come to church they can be ministered too but what happens when the minister needs to be ministered too? What a very unique thought where does the pastor go when he needs pastoring? What happens when the shepherd that leads sheep need shepherding because the shepherd is a lamb too? Here’s what I learned he simply need to do what God has called him or her was called to do. This pass weekend the only thing that made me better is just doing what I was created to do preach preacher preach. And Sunday that just what I did, starting out at our 9am service I shared the ingredients for a successful lifetime of spiritual growth. Simple outline but might be helpful for someone.

1. A lifetime of spiritual growth requires commitment!
   
2. A lifetime of spiritual growth requires balance!
   
3. A lifetime of spiritual growth requires relationship!

At 11am I was privileged to travel to Shawnee Oklahoma to share with a brother in the ministry [a preacher from your same home church] Pastor Tony Rhone and the Galilee Baptist Church on their 48th anniversary celebration. This church has a rich history that included a time when they had thought of cashing in but trusted God and they are now in a new church building with a new pastor celebrating their 48th birthday. As I was being introduced it dawned on me that over the last 4 weeks I have had the privilege of preaching three church anniversaries the 105th church anniversary of the New Hope Church of Newark, New Jerseys [Pastor Joe Carter], 1st church anniversary of the Vision Church of Stafford Virginia and then 48th for the Galilee Church. Isn’t it a blessing to know that with all of the bedrocks of financial institutions failing and falling that the church of God is still standing strong! [Hallelujah!!!!!] I tried to share with this church a word of encouragement both for the church as well as this young giant of a pastor “Fear Not!”

1. We don’t have to fear because God’s Presences is watching over us!
   
2. We don’t have to fear because God’s Purpose is working in us!
   
3. We don’t have to fear because God’s Place is waiting on us!

I guess it really didn’t matter that I as really preaching to myself [bet you thought was going to leave you’ll hang on the question of what does the shepherd do when he needs a shepherd]. We’ve all heard it “what good for the goose is good for the gander.”

So whatever you’re going through right now in your life “endurance” is the word for today! Push, Pray and Persist. And always remember that tomorrow is always full of new possibilities.

Hang in there. It’s going to be ALLLLLLLLLLL Right!

He [GOD] Neither Slumber nor Sleep

Hopefully the end of a pretty rough and tough week, Sunday evening after preaching in the pulpit that I has been absent from for several week. I found myself relaxing but feeling a bit under the weather. Hoping it was nothing more than sinus trouble [which I’m simply pledged with] I lay down for the evening. Tossing and turning all night my breathing began to become more laboring by the hour. As the sun peeked through the night I was up trying to make arrangement to see my doctor. The staff works me in to my surprise it was an upper respiratory infection which in the pass not discovered early put by health in a very dangerous situation. So after being out nearly two weeks, preaching Sunday, I am now grounded again. And, anyone who knows me knows that doesn’t wear well for so long. I’m given a shot, antibiotic, preventive medication and order to stay home and get rest.

I break out Thursday after a morning meeting around 1pm and worked until nearly 1am [something you have to handle after being on lock-down.] I’m up early Friday 5am to do what I do [message writing day], after about 6 solid hours, its time to do something else. I swing by the office head to a very important meeting – meeting went extremely well. I then was summoned by the suggababies [grand babies] that a trip to Chuck E. Cheese is in order. Anybody crazy enough to take three little ones to see Chucky at dinner time has got to have a few nuts loose. Again not one of the smartest things I’ve done. I’m still struggling with the URI decide I’m going to beat the coughing all night by taking a sleeping medication.

Sound asleep I am, when I hear my daughter scream. It takes me a moment to gather myself, while she is scream somebody is trying to break in. The next few minutes were helter skater by the time I make it outside the person is gone. I call 911 police and helicopters are every where they catch the person. I began to assess the damage and discover both vehicles are damage severely. Jack-up rather than saying what I want say but you get the drift.

What do you do when things like this happen? Become angry! That’s a good one tried it didn’t really fit. Sad! That’s a close second but in light of the fact that everybody was safe and I was home…it didn’t really fit either. Then I thought rather than being angry, mad, sad or a myriad of other emotions, why don’t I count my blessing.

1. Thank God “indeed, he who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep.” Psalm 121:4 (NIV)
2. Thank God, I was home to protect my family
3. Thank God, Nobody was harmed
4. Thank God, for insurance
5. Thank God, The person was apprehended
6. Thank God, The police dog bit the person in the ass
“No matter what happens, always be thankful, for this is God's will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18 (Living)

Wrapping Up East Coast Trip

1. Rev. Ron Willis, pastor of Vision Church Stafford, VA

2. Elder Jame & Cathy Booker, Jame Jr. & Carmen and the babies
3. Aunt Cathy, JJ & Uncle Jimmy
4. Janice, Cathy, JJ & Jimmy

5. Jason, Jimmy, & Cathy

Wrapping Up The East Coast Trip

1. White House

2. White House
3. Washington Monument















4. The Fashion Centre at Pentagon City

1. Washington National Brand New Ballpark

2. Justice Thurgood Marshall grave site Arlington

3. Actual place where Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. gave his "I have a dream" speach on the mall

4. Lincoln Memorial

5. Vietnam Veterans Memorial found a Ralph Gaddis

Here's The Wrap Up Of Our East Coast Trip

1. B. Smith, Me, Janice

2. Vision Church of Stafford, VA Women's Ministry (SPA)

3. Janice @ Arlington National Cemetery

4. President John Fitzgerald Kennedy's Grave in Arlington Cemetery

5. Eternal Flame for JFK's Grave

End a Marathon of a Day

Today is the last leg of the journey and we are determined to get out and check a few more things off our list.

I worked out (by the way they have a fabulous health club, beats the YMCA any day) while Sista lounged around just taken it easy. Watched a few episodes of a show based in Vegas (homework for somebody) never caught the name but really good. Pastor Willis made reservations for 1pm at Sweet Georgia. We were schedule to go on Sunday for brunch but when we call they could not accommodate a larger party (my family plus a few staff members who wanted to hang.) Well, I quickly realized why the atmosphere and the food were superb (soul food with white table cloth). Had a great time fellowshipping and talking about the Lord and His Church.

Next on the agenda was site seeing (first clear day since we arrived in the capital). We had Pastor drop us off and we started walking and walking and walking and walking and walking and walking (You get the point?) Site we visited...

Lincoln Memorial
Actual spot where Dr. King gave "I have a dream" speech
Reflection pool
Vietnam Veterans Memorial
Constitution Gardens
Washington Monument
White House

As the sun began to set the temperature changes fast so we caught the train or subway (not sure what the call it) and headed to hotel. I 'm writing this sitting in mall, waiting on the first lady to finally stop (ya'll aint no way she is going to get this stuff in these bags...that's a whole other story.) Ya'll would be proud of me I'm just sitting here drinking my Starbucks (did I mention we need one of these in phase two.)

I'm ready for hot shower and room service...

Sunday Family Reunion

After a very, very, very relaxing night, we were awakening with a knock on the day with breakfast. The driver call came about an hour and a half later. What has been an eye-opening for me during the last few weeks is that not only do they do church much different but their attention to detail is unbelievable [we’ll talk more about it later.] The driver immediately took my bags, opened doors and what impressed me the most after greeting me never said another word for 25-35 mile while I reviewed my manuscript.

We arrived to the church; of course Vision Community Church has grown from just a dream to a little less than a 100 members. They rent a local High School in Stafford, Va for their Sunday experience and a local Christian school for weekly services. What is exciting is that most of the members that I greeted were individuals that had no previous church. Rev. Willis and the Vision Church are really growing a church with people who are introduced to Jesus Christ by their membership. Wonderful praise team, they use track music with a live drummer and bass player [surprising you couldn’t tell]. They escorted me straight to the stage and I was given 40 minutes. Not sure how I did with time but the Lord blessed us and from their comments they were blessed by the Word.

I’ve spent time this week with new friends Pastor Anthony Maclin and Pastor Vaughn McLaughlin. Old friends Rev. Michael Woodberry and Pastor Ron Willis but what has made this trip has been getting a chance to visit with family. I told you about my aunt Bettie yesterday, Sunday morning my Uncle Elder James Booker, Aunt Cathy Booker, cousin James Jr (JJ) his wife Carmen, cousin Jason (I told you guys it was a family reunion). We talked and laughed, it was a great time. They drove in two hours to be with us and it was a very, very special time.

Headed To Stafford, Virginia from DC

Visited the Vision Community Church for the first time this morning as Janice and I was asked to share with the women and leadership team on vision. Nothing in ministry excites me more than sharing with leaders. When you impact leadership you impact generations. This church is only an year old, meeting Sundays at a High School and rented space during the week. Vision is a small church with huge vision. Pastured by one of my good friends Rev. Ron Willis. God truly has great things in store for this people. We will be honor to meet the entire church family in morning during their 10am experience.

After the leadership session we took the small window of opportunity to do some site seeing (it has literally been raining since we arrived). First stop Arlington Cemetery and you probably guessed it the moment we arrived it started raining but we were determined to do this. Was able to visit President John F. Kennedy's and Supreme Court Judge Thurgood Marshall's grave sites. Rain got the best of that outing, so we wrapped it up early.

Next stop was suit shop (yea..................can you tell I've been waiting on that?) Simply incredible collection I won't tell you who's fault that was (give you a guess his 1st name starts with David and last name starts with Young). After literally having to be dragged out and threatened. I went kicking and screaming to our next stop.

With appetite in-tow we then ended the day visiting family. My Aunt Bettie is a Washingtonian, a beautiful women who has defied age and mother nature and I'm her favorite (don't tell my brothers) and she's very special too me. We all had those relatives who we looked up to and admired and she was one of them. We could smell the food as we walked up to the door (she lives in the big city but is still country...you know you have to feed kin-folk). My cousin can simply throw down, great meal and great conversation. Before we knew it time has gotten away and said our good-byes and headed to hotel.

Getting ready to lay it down. Big day tomorrow and need to be rested. Will check in tomorrow.

Just Too Much But I Like It Like That

You every been hungry and went to a buffet looked at all the food and then lost your appetite. That has been how these last few days have been.

Check this out:

The Ritz is connect the mall in picture (we spent the great part of the day and didn't make it through)

There is a food court with every thing from McDonald's to Starbucks (yes, I'm hooked...think that Bethel Community needs one)

There are so many major site that I want to visit while here Arlington cemetery, the Washington monument, and the White House (before "CHANGE" changes it to the people' house)

Washington DC has been added to my top 10 places that make you proud to be an Africa America. The brothers and sisters are owners, lenders and the power brokers here.

I've met with some of the nation's most influential visionary for the kingdom of God. Can't explain it just Favor and it ain't fair. Will tell you more about this later today.

I haven't been yet but I've been told that there is suit stores here that will cause me to loose my mine...looking to that. (Again you have to know me. Sick! Pray for a brotha.)

Later today I will share more. Have a great day. Blessings on you!

Headed To Our Nation's Capital

(@12Noon) Tuesday, September 23rd I woke up in Newark, New Jersey, went to bed in Oklahoma City and headed to Washington, DC today – what an incredible journey the last few days have been. My travel arrangements were made as a sort of surprise and what a surprise it was (too many to mention here). One in particular was as we received our boarding passes we quickly realized that we’re booked for first-class.

Let me quickly say that there is a definite difference between coach and first-class. Just a couple obvious differences: [1] You are allowed one free checked bag in coach you pay $15; [2] You are give the option of priority boarding; [3] Before the other passengers are asked to board the flight attendant has offered to hang your coat, get you a drink, magazine, pillow and blanket, [4] Oh, yea there is one attendant for first class which is about 10 seats and one attendant for the other 35-45 seats – so you can imagine the attention to detail, [5] In coach you have to buy snacks but first class your are given an option of several free snacks, [6] and my favorite in coach they serve your drink in a plastic cup but in first class your drink is served in a glass (you have to know me to understand that craziness).

As I sat back for a good read 30,000 feet in the air the Holy Spirit began to talk with me about what God offers us. In John 10: 10 Jesus says “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” (NIV) I hope you don’t mind me sharing this conversation…First-Class is what Jesus offers and He desires us to have a first-class relationship with Him. You can fly through life on coach but what Jesus offers is first-class. Now before you get too excited about that let me say quickly say that to fly in first-class cost more. Some people just aren’t willing to pay the price to ride first-class. Jesus wants to have a first-class relationship with you…are you willing to pay the price. Before you answer the amenities are worth it the sacrifice.

(@7pm) We finally made it, it was a much easier ride in first-class but my frequent flier miles are catching up with this body of mine. Our driver didn’t make it any better I had to look twice because I thought he may have been a stock-car driver the way he was driving…like he was late for something. We arrive at the hotel (the famous Ritz-Carlton). The service is fabulous and the amenities are fantastic. Tonight we are scheduled to go to dinner in Union City.

(@9) We just finished an outstanding meal a B.Smith’s (that probably means as much to you as it did to me at first.) Matter fact as Janice and I was enjoying our meal this couple comes in and began to make their way around to all the table speaking…so I determined that they must be the owners as they made their way to our table. After a wonderful meal (by the way we had fried BQ chicken, potato salad, collard greens and cornbread. For desert Janice had cheese cake and I opted for strawberry short cake. We shared the meal so I thought I would go for the desert menu. I’m being good. I promise!) On our way out the restaurant there was several picture and then more and more as you walk through to the other side of the restaurant. Then we discovered that this very attractive lady was someone very special. So let me explain who this outstanding black woman is B. Smith is a former fashion model turned restaurateur, television host, author, entrepreneur and entertainer extraordinaire and is widely regarded as an expert when it comes to casual but elegant living thus her national syndicated television show B. Smith with style.

Here’s my B. Smith story I had decided to chronicle the trip on the blog so thought I would get a picture with my phone to attach to blog. So, I’m trying my best to take a picture of a picture and I hear someone say “You can do better than that.” You guessed it B. Smith and her husband Dan was standing behind me. Very pleasant couple Dan offered to take a picture with my phone – I had a better idea Janice just happened to have our camera in her bag. She posed for a picture and we share pleasantries and they headed into the station. I will post those pics ASAP.

Miss you guys see you soon! Pastor G

Ministering in Newark, New Jersey

Today, I'm sharing with the New Hope Baptist Church in Newark with my brother Rev Joe Carter. The New Hope family is celebrating the church's 105th anniversary. With businesses, financial institutions and corporations folding and closing there is a blessed assurance that God church has and will survive.

I was honored to minister in two of his three services. Carter's church is in the heart of Newark doing some amazing and innovative stuff (inner-city school, VA volunteer program, job placement). Joe is a fantastic preacher but this weekend he impressed me most with his pastoral expertise. His church didn't happen by accident but on purpose.

I've had the pleasure to preach, teach and visit several major ministries across the country and few churches have the gift of hospitality like New Hope. I was just blown away by the thoughtfulness and the personal care they took to make my stay enjoyable. (Standing Ovation!!!)

It almost sometimes surreal to be around people you've grown up with there's always that moment with me that I realize that we're talking about things that happened 20-25 years ago. Another strange thing is being around people who really, really, really good. The strange thing is that it feels like home. So many time people think they know you or they know the person every says you are...it just cool to hang out with people who know you and you know them.

Its taken me two days to post this...so at this point of the post its Monday and I'm sitting at the airport in Newark getting ready to head home. Ready to get home to see the family. Getting ready to board my plane check back going to be a long journey.

Headed to National Baptist Convention

After a very long but rewarding weekend, I'm headed to Cincinnati Ohio. I seen more airport this year than I would like to admit.

Yesterday , we begun a new sermon series called "The Heart of Worship!" As we continue to grow and mature as a congregation this is vital. Worship is uniquely tied to our understanding and relationship with God. We have recently committed as a worship team to shape and craft our into an experience. Jesus said that "they that worship Him must worship Him in spirit and in truth." Our goal is that the people who gather at 23rd and Jordan will be impacted by experiencing God through worship.

Sunday's outline...

Awesome God

Psalm 139: 1-18

1. We ought to worship God because He is omniscient vs. 1-6

2. We ought to worship God because He is omnipresent vs. 7-12

3. We ought to worship God because He is omnipotence vs. 13-18

I just received some very exciting news: the framing for our new church should be finished this week. Our congregation has so much to be thankful for...the spiritual growth, the numerical growth and physical growth. I am filled with excitement for the future possibilities they sre unlimited in God through Jesus Christ.

Can't wait to see what God wil do next!

Friday, August 29th - How To Say "Thank You"

“I will never worship anyone but you! For how can I thank you enough for all you have done? I will surely fulfill my promises. For my deliverance comes from the Lord alone.” Jonah 2:9 (Living)

“Thank you!” Those two words are incredibly significant and deeply spiritual. One of the greatest skills we can develop in life is the skill of saying thank you. Thursday, August 28th will forever be a special day for me and hopefully for you as well, as we witness Senator Barack Obama accept the nomination from the Democratic Party. Destiny would have it that this historical event happened 45 years to the day Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. delivered his famous “I Have A Dream” speech at the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom. Dr. King’s moving address still echoes today. What a significant day for America and Americans of every color under the sun. I could not help but think of the nameless and faceless persons that sacrificed to make this day possible. From the most famous and noted individuals to those whom names we will never know. We owe a great deal of Thanks. So, who do we say thanks? I Believe We Say Thanks By…

Being Responsible! Let’s not be careless with what has been passed down to us. We are privileged to find shade under trees we did not planet. Many of the things that we have come to take for granted came at a tremendous cost. Don’t be guilty of taking advantage of the dream and not contributing to the dream.

Being Real! Let’s help our white brothers and sisters understand that this is only a down payment on the dream this is not the dream fully realized. Now is the most important time for us to educate about the struggles of African American in this country (the incarceration rate, educational gap, discrimination in housing and that perpetual glass ceiling that hold so many of people of color back.) Even after November 4th when white America catches a cold, black America catches pneumonia.

Be Respectful! Vote and encourage others to Vote. The right to vote came at a great cost – it is shameful for any American not educate themselves and participate in our democratic process. In the voting booth everyone is equal, that’s what makes this country so great. Inside that booth it doesn’t matter how old or how young you are…how much money you have or how little money you have…whether you have a PHD or a GED. Your Vote Matters!

Tuesday, August 26th - The Ingredients Of Thankfulness

“I always thank God for you because of his grace given you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Corinthians 1:4 (NIV)

Understanding the right ingredients is all important! Heloise wrote in her “hints” column that that best way to cook a moist turkey was to, “Put a cup of water in the cavity of the turkey, cover with tin foil and bake.” A reader wrote back to complain. “The turkey came out fine, but the plastic cup in the turkey melted!” Imagining that person trying to squeeze that cup into that turkey reminds us that directions must be specific! What are God’s specific directions for developing a thankful heart? What are the ingredients that result in thanksgiving? Here’s your “Thanksgiving recipe.”

Recognize God’s grace! When was the last time you sent your boss a thank you note for that month’s check? Of course you don’t... you don’t thank someone for what you earned. That’s why recognition of God’s grace is such an important ingredient of thankfulness. When we recognize that all we have is a gift from Him it makes us into thankful people.

Understand God’s righteousness! “Righteousness” means that God ALWAYS does what is right. Are you beginning to understanding of how righteousness ties in with thanksgiving? Sometimes life doesn’t feel like a gift. Sometime life doesn’t look like a gift. Thankfulness, results from the knowledge that God is righteous. When life seems to have been unfair, when it seems to have cheated you, remember that God is righteous. His purpose will reign in the end.

Thank God with other people! Of course you can and should give thanks all alone. But the truth is: if you don’t have a place to give thanks with others you’ll soon stop giving thanks at all. You need to hear others give thanks. You need to share what God’s doing in your life with others. Thankfulness is grows best in bunches.

The 50th Anniversary and The Power of Following Leadership

Today marks the 50th Anniversary of Katz Drug Store Sit-ins. On August 19, 1958, Clara Luper led 3 adults chaperons and 14 young people serving on the NAACP youth council walk up to a segregated lunch counter in downtown Okalahoma City to order some soft drinks. The store’s refusal to serve the group drinks launched years of peaceful sit-ins at eating establishments across the city and nation. One of the 14 shared this sentiment, “We didn’t know really the impact of what we were doing. We simply were following the leadership of our workers.” What an awesome thought: the power and impact of obedient children. This small group of people changed the course of America simply by following leadership.

Friday, August 15th - Raising Your Worship To New Heights

“So here's what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him.” Romans 12:1 (Msg)

A. W. Tozer put it well: “The presence of God in our midst, bringing a sense of Godly fear and holy reverence, is largely missing in the church today. Thus, much of what we call worship, God does not.”

The worship of God is a theme that dominates the entire Bible. In Genesis, man fell because he failed to worship God; and, in Revelation, one day, all of history will culminate in the worship of God as the King of Kings and Lord of Lords.

The Bible teaches us an amazing truth in regards to worship. God, who does not need anything, or anyone, desires the adoration and worship of His created children. God did not create us because He was lonely; rather, He created us so that He might have our Lord-SHIP, our Fellow-SHIP, our Steward-SHIP, and our Worth-SHIP.

One of the greatest definitions of worship I have ever heard, or read, was given by Ronnie Floyd in his book, “Life on Fire.” He said: “Worship is an encounter with Christ that results in a lifestyle change!”

There are two questions that beg to be answered, right here!

One – How does one worship God
Two – How can I assure that I get the most out of my time of worship

Let me take the back door approach and tell you what worship is not.

* Worship is bigger than a musical performance
* Worship is bigger than my preference
* Worship is bigger than my place of worship

So how do we worship God?

* By loving Him
* By trusting Him
* By obeying Him
* By thanking Him
* By serving Him

By now somebody wants to get more out of their worship experience. Now this is not going to be real deep but I believe that some of the most helpful stuff is just common sense. How this blesses you as much as it blessed me writing it. Pastor, how can I assure that I get the most out of my time of worship?

On Saturday:
1. Ask Christ to make you sensitive tomorrow to the needs of people in the body who are hurting.
2. Solve the “Sunday clothes hassle” make sure that what you will wear is ready and God honoring.
3. Spent time in confession so all will be right between you and the Lord when you meet tomorrow.
4. Determine to get to bed early so I will be refreshed and ready for church tomorrow.
5. Eliminate and guard your heart from Sunday afternoon distraction that will cause you to not to be able to allow the Holy Spirit to continue to minister to you.

On Sunday:
1. Get up in plenty of time so you will not feel rushed.
2. Program your morning so you will not just arrive at church on time, but get there early.
3. Eat a good breakfast, so that the enemy can’t use an empty stomach to detract your worship.
4. Bring your Bible, pen and church notebook in order to get the most out of your time of worship.
5. Come to church with a great sense of expectancy because you know Christ will be there.
6. Hang around and fellowship with God’s people…IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU!

On Sunday everyone needs to get up on time, eat at a set hour, and leave plenty early, ideally after a short time of family prayer asking that God will be glorified and speak to each family member. If you do this, YOUR SUNDAY WORSHIP WILL ASCEND TO NEW HEIGHTS.

Sunday, August 10th It's ALL About You, Jesus

Today is my birthday and I am so thankful to God. What a gift life is! I spent the first hour of my day in worship. Before the first birthday wish I wanted my heavenly Father to know how grateful I am and how I intend to spend the rest of the days He allows me to live. The older I get the more I realize that not a day since I got here was promised to me. As I look over my life He has simply been good.

Today I'm thanking God that...

#1 I'm Saved!!! I've ask Jesus to come live in my heart

#2 Both my Mother and Father are still here to celebrate my birthday with me

#3 All of my brothers are still here [my sister is already with the Lord.]

#4 My wife and I just celebrate 22year of marriage

#5 My children are healthy and well

#6 My grandchildren have been a blessing and I’m blessed to spend time with each and every day

#7 I’m blessed to be the pastor a incredible church

#8 I have some friends who I wouldn't trade for the world

#9 Not to mention in a few hours I’ll get a chance to do what I was born to do [preach and teach]

#10 And finally the Journey has been worth it

When I look back over my life – today is not about me but today is ALL about JESUS!

When the music fades And all is stripped away And I simply come Longing just to bring Something that's of worth That will bless your heart I'll bring You more than a song For a song in itself Is not what You have required You search much deeper within Through the ways things appear You're looking into my heart I'm coming back to the heart of worship And it's all about You All about You, Jesus I'm sorry Lord for the thing I've made it When it's all about You It's all about You Jesus King of endless worth No one could express How much You deserve Though I'm weak and poor All I have is Yours Every single breath I'll bring You more than just a song For a song in itself Is not what You have required You search much deeper within Through the way things appear You're looking into my heart I'm coming back to the heart of worship And it's all about You All about You, Jesus I'm sorry Lord for the thing I've made it When it's all about You It's all about You Jesus Its all about you Jesus

Thursday, August 7th - The Strange Mixture Of Sacrifice and Joy

“Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy. He who goes out weeping, carrying seed to sow, will return with songs of joy, carrying sheaves with him.” Psalm 126:5-6 (NIV)

Imagine being in a third world country watching as a tribe of people literally get down to their very last. A drought has hit the tribe and they are deviated and their supply of corn has been stretched to the limit. As you stand at the run-down mud refuge you see a father take one of the last bags of dried corn out of his families store room. This corn could have been pounded into meal to make the cakes that was the staple of the family’s diet. But, instead, he by passes the table and take the corn to the field where he sowed the seed into the ground. As you look into the father’s eyes tears begin to form and fall making streaks through the dust and the dirt on his cheeks. What has caused this father to be moved to tears? IT HURTS!!! It hurt to put into the ground what might be his family’s last meal. Yet he knew that without sowing that seed his family would certainly starve the next year. So he sowed with tears knowing that he would one day reap with joy.

I know I took the long way on this one but what’s the lesson? That we should give away our last meal? Surely not! The lesson is this.... it’s not always easy to “Generate Generosity!” When we talk about “Giving Cheerfully” it can sound as if giving is always an easy thing to do. That simply is not true. For those who give there is often the strange mixture of sacrifice and joy. You know that you’re doing what is right and yet it is often hard to let go. That’s true when we give our time, our treasure [money], our talents or ourselves.

But the truth is... there is an inevitable law of sowing and reaping at work. It’s a natural law. It’s a spiritual law. Those Who Sow In Tears WILL Reap With Joy. The result of our sacrificing to meet other’s needs is not just a feeling of satisfaction, well being or “having done the right thing.” It is JOY! What is joy? It is an overflowing sense of God’s perspective on life, an overwhelming experience of God’s presence in life and an overarching knowledge of God’s security for life.

Family discussion question: Can you remember a time when it was difficult for you to give something? (Everybody in the family can answer this, even preschoolers can think of an answer to this question!)

Monday, August 4th - Sacrifice To Live

“I tell you the truth, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds.” John 12:24 (NIV)

I stumbled upon this text the other day and began to have a conversation with this stalk of wheat. Imagine a grain of wheat talking to itself, admiring itself, noticing how round and brown and fully packed it is. Imagine the conversation that the wheat would have about the impending fate of falling into the cold, dark ground. The grain of wheat might say, “I’m feeling a little uncomfortable with this idea of falling. I’m cool just like I am. I’m happy, fluffy and full. Falling to the ground would be a waste of my life.”

Jesus is not talking about wheat in this verse. He is talking to us! He’s reminding us that a sacrifice given out of a loving heart for Him always results in new life for ourselves and for others. Yet most of us have felt like our mythical grain of wheat. Sacrifice is a great idea… for other people or for some other time.

We all want to do something great with our lives. We think, “I’ll finish those goals and then I’ll have time to make the sacrifices.” Jesus says to us, “Sacrifice comes first!” Jesus led the way for us. He sacrificed His life, literally, so that we could be forgiven. The most significant sacrifice in history brought about the most significant impact upon history.

This sacrifice is not a simplistic “no pain, no gain” philosophy. We’re not talking about working hard. (Although there’s nothing wrong with hard work.) Nor is this an invitation to a “martyr complex” faith [I’m getting therapy for this - tough one for those who grew up in the "old church"]. We’re talking about True Sacrifice is giving up that which is most important to you. Jesus could not have been clearer. Losing your life comes before finding your life.

And find it you will! Someone once said to a group of missionaries serving in a remote area “you have certainly buried yourselves here.” The missionary replied, “We were not buried here, we were planted here.”

Family Discussion Question: How do we get past the “I’m not sure I really want to do this” feeling that goes along with all genuine sacrifices?

Friday, August 1st - Get Off Your Ass ("donkey" - it's in the Bible)

“He answered: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind'; and, 'Love your neighbor as yourself." Luke 10:27 (NIV)

(Read the story of the Good Samaritan in Luke 10:30-36)

Jesus’ parable of the Good Samaritan is a parable about the service that springs from love. The story is so simple that we often miss its incredible applications for our everyday lives. It is the story of three different types of people that represent three different responses to needs.

1. Those who create needs.
The robbers in this story created the needs that the Samaritan would eventually meet. How did they become such takers rather than givers? Their actions were the result of a single attitude: “My needs are more important than your needs.” Let me say it so you don’t miss it in a word, they were selfish. Self-centeredness creates an avalanche of needs... it always has and always will. That’s why the Lord so clearly says to us through Paul “Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Philippians 2:4 (NIV)

2. Those who ignore needs.
The Levite and priest just “passed by.” It was easier to pretend the need didn’t exist, although it meant that the man would probably die. Ignoring needs is so easy. This is where the majority of us struggle. Why do we ignore others needs rather than meeting the need?

§ Fear: “We’re afraid we might get hurt”
§ Judgment: “We have judgmental attitudes”
§ Busyness: “We’re too busy with life's details” (Ouch!)
§ False purity: “We’re afraid of how their problems might affect us”

3. Those who meet needs.
The most striking thing about the Samaritan was that he made the choice to meet another person’s need. That meant personal sacrifice. His sacrifice was built upon his compassion. His compassion overcame fear and apathy. His compassion made him willing to care. His willingness to care came with a cost. It cost him the price of an inn. It cost him his time. It cost him his comfort, he walked while the man rode his donkey.

Family Discussion Question: Do you find it difficult to pay the price to love? To give of your time, talent and treasure?

Tuesday, July 29th - Sacrifice To Love

“If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.” 1 Corinthians 13:1 (NIV)

Today is the last day of our 21 day fast, so I felt moved to share with you a few thoughts about biblical love. Fasting is all about sacrificing and sacrificing is the cornerstone of love. It's not enough for love to just be exciting, it also must be lasting! Teen age romance won't satisfy a middle aged couple. Puppy love won't last through the dog days of life [Now that was funny…I see you smiling]. Most people have allowed Hollywood to shape and form their idea and definition of love. Hollywood places fantasy in front of us and presents it as reality. But Paul writes to the Corinthians amidst their turmoil [about spiritual gifts] and tells them the secret of love that makes relationships last. Let’s look at I Corinthians 13 together and get some clues to the daily sacrifices that keep love alive.

“Love is patient...” (1 Corinthians 13:4)
Love is alive when it has time... is dying when it is hurried... is dead when it cannot wait. Waiting together is a part of all of our relationships! But many times love also means that I must wait for someone else ‑ wait for them to grow or to understand ‑ wait for them to heal or to get motivated. [That was difficult to say…pray for all the impatience people like me.] Who do you need to have patience with today?

"Love is kind..." (1 Corinthians 13:4)
Love is alive when it cares... is dying when it forgets... is dead when it ignores.
Kindness is the ability to do the little things well. The love expressed in kindness is learning how to turn those grand vows into simple acts and expression of love. Do you ever forget to be kind? We all do! Kindness in our families, with those we are closest to, takes real effort. Who can you show kindness too?

“LOVE does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud” (1 Corinthians 13:4)

Love is alive when it is secure... is dying when it doubts... is dead when it loses trust. Security is one of the #1 issues in relationships. Add a little insecurity to the best of relationships and love does not stay alive. Someone once told me that jealousy is a waste of emotion. I’m not really sure if I would go to that extreme but I will say that if you care deeply for someone it takes time to build a level of trust that can withstand certain challenges. This is even true in our relationship with God. The more we walk with God the more secure we become. The more we experience God the more we can rely on God. The more we learn how to trace God’s hand the more we can learn how to trust God’s heart. What is one step you could take today to make a relationship you are insecure in become more secure? Strengthen a relationship today talk to or call someone and say “No matter what happens, no matter what the future hold for us, I want you to know… I will always love you.”

Family Activity: Here’s your assignment...do two random acts of kindness. One toward a totally stranger and the other to someone in your family.

Monday, July 28th - Sacrificing To Grow

“Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize.” I Corinthians 9:24 (NIV)

The truth is, our biggest hurdle in making the sacrificial commitments we’d like to make for Christ is often OURSELVES! We don't always feel like doing what we know is right to do! Sometimes we feel like doing what we know is the worst thing to do. Wouldn't it be great if they made a TV remote control for people! Circumstances become overwhelming - click - change channels. Can't wait patiently - click - fast forward. Afraid of the future - click - pause. Want to make up for a mistake - click - rewind. Wouldn't it be great if they made a remote control for self-control?

Paul says in 1 Corinthians 9:19 (NIV) “Though I am free and belong to no man, I make myself a slave to everyone, to win as many as possible.” How do you do that? The key to self control is Christ control - the Bible says it is a fruit that God's spirit wants to bear in our lives. Paul talks about three areas of life that we need to make a commitment to if we are to follow his leadership in our lives in this area of a new sense of self control.

1. Excellence: “Run for the Prize…”
Don't run at the back, don't run with the pack but run for the prize. In a world where many are thinking it’s enough to have simply participated, we are challenged to strive for excellence.

2. Eternity: “Train for the crown…”
If the relatively small promise of a reward like a gold medal can motivate us to such great heights even on a human level - just think of what a focus on eternity could do!

3. Energy: “Aim for the goal”
If you’re running a race it’s good to have your eye on the finish line! Paul reminded us that those who reach the finish are those who make sacrifices. He said he “disciplined his body.” We have a choice. We become a slave to our passions or we live for Christ with the passion of a slave.

Family Discussion Question: Where do you need a renewed commitment to excellence… focus on eternity… discipline for energy?

Thursday, July 24th – Sacrificing To Change

“Then God said, "Take your son, your only son, Isaac, whom you love, and go to the region of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on one of the mountains I will tell you about.” Genesis 22:2 (NIV)

We all have something we’d like to change in our lives. It might be our schedule or our habits, our words or our weight. Many of us struggle with making those changes. Instead of telling yourself you cannot change, why NOT discover the secret of lasting change.

The secret of lasting change is sacrifice. In the give and take of life what you give you keep and what you take you end up losing. Any talk about change must include an honest look at sacrifices. Lasting change is built on real sacrifices. Your attitude towards sacrifice can be a grumbled, “We all have to make sacrifices,” or a faith filled, “God asks us all to make sacrifices.” The sacrifices God asks of us always build towards the blessings God wants to give to us.

Abraham understood sacrifice. He sacrificed his former life and people when he moved to the Promised Land. And then, when it seemed that all the sacrifices had been made and he could coast for the rest of his life, God asked for the biggest sacrifice of all. [God is always asking for another “Yes!”] He told Abraham to sacrifice his son. How could God ask that of Abraham? I hear you asking yourself “How could God ask for so much of us?” You've got it all wrong! It's not as if He takes and we give. It's more that he teaches us how to give so that He can give us even more.

We read this story and the tension builds - would God really let Abraham go through with it! There is a sigh of relief in us all when God stops Abraham at the end - when He provides a ram in the thicket. Hebrews 11 tells us that Abraham trusted God to resurrect his son even if he had completed the sacrifice.

In New Testament days this scene is replayed. [Hallelujah!!!] Once again it's an Only Son, ready to be sacrificed. But this time it is Jesus, God's Son, on the cross. But this time no voice calls out, and there is no ram in the thicket. What He would not allow Abraham to do God himself did. [Just take a moment and think about that – what God would not allow Abraham do God did himself!] Jesus sacrificed His life!

The sacrifice that Abraham did not have to make changed him. The sacrifice that Jesus did make changed us. There is no change without sacrifice.

Family Discussion Question: What would you like to change and what has Jesus Changed already?